How to Begin Inner Child Work Gently —

Without Overwhelm or Pressure

14-week Rewired Healing Series | Week 4: Meeting Your Inner Child

📚 Summary

This week’s Rewired post explores how to begin connecting with your inner child — gently, safely, and in your own time. We break down what “inner child” really means, how it shows up in your daily life, why it matters in healing, and how to begin this work without overwhelm. You’ll also get a free trauma-informed worksheet to help you take your first steps with compassion — not pressure.

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Before we dive in, I want to say something that might surprise you:

You don’t have to do inner child work right now to heal.
You’re not behind if it feels too overwhelming, too strange, or too soon.
And you're still making progress — even if all you do is read this and close the tab.

This week’s Rewired theme is an invitation, not a requirement.
If it feels safe to explore, I’d be honored to walk with you.
But if something inside you feels unsure — a quiet hesitation, fear, or uneasiness — listen to your body.
It’s not resisting. It’s protecting you.

If you're ready to learn more, let’s start with what “inner child” actually means.

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💛 What “Inner Child” Actually Means

Your inner child isn’t just a memory of you as a kid.
It’s the part of your nervous system that still holds the imprint of your early experiences — especially the ones where you didn’t feel safe, soothed, or seen.

This part of you might show up when:

• You suddenly shut down in conflict and don’t know why

• You feel ashamed or guilty just for having needs

• You over-apologize to avoid the risk of being “too much”

• You feel panicked when someone’s even mildly upset with you

• You crave closeness but pull away when it’s actually offered

• You stay silent to keep the peace — even when it breaks your heart

• You feel invisible in a group, like your presence doesn’t matter

• You second-guess yourself constantly, afraid to get it wrong

• You shape-shift to meet others’ expectations, even when you're exhausted

• You carry a sadness you can’t explain — like something’s always missing

• You sabotage good things before they can disappoint you

• You still hold shame for things that were never your fault

It’s not always conscious. It’s most likely flying under your radar.
But it’s there — and it’s trying to get your attention.

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💡 Want to Understand Why This Happens?

This Thursday’s paid post takes it a step further — exploring the relatable neuroscience behind each of these inner child wounds.

If you’ve ever wondered why you freeze in conflict… feel guilty for having needs… or crave closeness but push it away — we’ll unpack what’s happening in your brain and body, and how to begin gently rewiring those patterns.

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🌿 Why Inner Child Work Can Be Powerful (and Hard)

For so many of us, childhood meant disconnection.
We learned to silence our emotions, question our reality, or perform for love.

Inner child work helps us re-establish the connection that was broken — gently, slowly, and in a way that supports safety instead of reactivating trauma.

But let’s also be honest: it can bring up a lot.
Guilt. Grief. Resistance. Even numbness.

That’s why I strongly believe this work should never be forced.

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🧘 Before You Begin: Safety First

Before trying any inner child work, take a moment to check in with yourself:

• Do I feel grounded enough to explore this gently?

• Do I have a way to come back to calm if something gets stirred up?

• Can I give myself full permission to stop if it becomes too much?

You don’t need to feel “ready” — but having a support plan makes a difference.
And if the answer to any of these is “not right now,” that’s okay too.

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✨ Gentle Ways to Say Hello

Here are a few low-pressure ways to begin:

• 📸 Look at a childhood photo — no goal, just notice what comes up.

  You don’t need to analyze it or go digging for answers.
  Just witness that younger version of you — and notice how your body and heart respond.

• Write a short message to your child self — like “I see you,” or “You didn’t deserve that”

• Ask your child self: What did you need back then that you didn’t get?

Pause and notice — how your body feels when you think of your younger self.
You may notice:

• A tightness in your chest or a lump in your throat

• A sense of distance, like you barely recognize that version of you

• A rush of sadness, pride, or even protectiveness

• A voice in your head that says “You look so lost” — or “You were trying so hard to be okay”

• A memory you hadn’t thought about in years

• Nothing at all — just stillness, which is perfectly fine too

Whatever you feel — or don’t feel — is valid.
There’s no right reaction here.

Sometimes, this work brings a flood of emotion.
Other times, it brings a wall — silence, shutdown, or even resistance.

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If you feel a strong emotion rising:
💛 Place a hand over your heart or belly
💛 Name what you’re feeling — even if it’s just “something”
💛 Take 3 slow, deep breaths and remind yourself: “I’m safe now. I’m just noticing.”

If you feel numb or disconnected:
🌱 That’s a sign your system is protecting you — not a sign that you’re doing it wrong
🌱 Try gently tapping your hands or feet to bring awareness back
🌱 Remind yourself that you are safe — and that you can stop anytime

This part of the journey is about building trust with your own system.
You don’t have to push.
You just have to listen — and offer yourself the same gentleness you wish you’d had back then.

Even the smallest moment of connection with your child self can create a ripple — a gentle reminder that things are different now.

This isn’t about fixing.
It’s about meeting your child self — with love and compassion.

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📝 Free Download: Gentle Check-In Worksheet

🌿 Week 4: Saying Hello to Your Inner Child

This printable is a gentle first step into inner child work — designed for anyone who’s just beginning to explore this part of their healing.

Inside, you’ll find:

• Simple, reflective prompts to help you gently tune in

• A space to draw or describe your younger self

• A grounding reminder to help you stay regulated

• A short section to write what you’d like your inner child to know

💛 There’s absolutely no pressure to finish it.
Even just reading the questions is enough.

📥 Click here to download your 'Meet Your Inner Child' worksheet

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🎁 Because This Work Goes Deep — I’ve Got a Gift For You

💛 Inner child work can bring up a lot.
Because this part of the journey goes deep, I’m offering a free month of paid access to anyone who needs a little extra support for the next part of our Rewired Series — no pressure, just a gift of additional education, tools and support during this validating and transformational chapter of your healing.

You’ll get instant access to Thursday’s guided writing practice, PLUS all previous paid posts, tools, and printables in the Rewired Series.

🔐 Click here to start your free month

Offer available through 7/7/25.

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💬 You’re Not Alone in This

Inner child work can bring up grief, resistance, or deep emotion — even just imagining this part of you.

Want to connect with others exploring this too?
💬 Join us in the subscriber chat — you’re not doing this alone.

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🔐 Coming Thursday for Paid Subscribers:

A Letter to My Inner Child — Guided Writing Practice

This exclusive printable is a deeper tool for those ready to take the next step.
It’s a structured, trauma-informed writing practice to help you build trust and connection with the younger version of you — with safety and support built in.

Inside, you’ll receive:

• 💬 Compassionate sentence starters to help the words flow gently

• 💛 Affirmations designed to rewire shame into self-compassion

• ✍️ Creative space to draw, write, or simply be with your inner child

• 🧘‍♀️ Grounding prompts woven throughout to support regulation

• 💌 My personal sample letter to my Inner Child

This isn’t just about writing a letter — it’s about beginning to rebuild a relationship with the most important person in your life: your inner child.

✨ Available Thursday for paid subscribers only.

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📌 About Us:

We’re Kristin & Travis Francis — founders of Complex PTSD Warrior.
We provide trauma-informed education and support for healing your nervous system, repairing relationships, and breaking generational cycles — using curated tools rooted in neuroscience and lived Complex PTSD experience.

Our mission is to spread Complex PTSD Awareness, Education & Tools around the world.
If this post helped you feel seen, understood, or less alone — we’d be so grateful if you shared it with someone who might need it too.
It might be the message they’ve been waiting their whole life to hear.

Disclaimer: The content shared here is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. Please go at your own pace, and always prioritize what feels safe for your body and nervous system. If you’re in crisis or need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health provider or crisis resource in your area.